I
find it interesting that we can parallel many things in life. Examples
are heard all so often and I was thinking about this a couple of weeks
ago.

 

“Partners and Fishing”

 

Despite the fact that
fishing and looking for partner are 2 different things, the
characteristics, motions, actions, and behaviors have some common, if
not exactly the same, events.

 

Let’s begin with fishing:

 

Before you can go
fishing you must learn how to fish. Usually you have your dad or uncle
teach you when you’re just a wee tot. From there you will learn the
basics, such as types of fish, bait, methods, practices, secret fishing
holes, etc… With the proper skills in head knowledge you can begin to
fish, most of them time you’re just giving a hook with a worm on it to
start, then you would advance to lures, jigs and so on. With enough
practice you may pick up fly fishing and have a whole new way of
fishing. Nonetheless, in the end you will develop your own style and
decide what kind of fish you like to fish for.

 

Along the way of
learning how to fish the first lesson you will learn is that fishing
takes patience. All good fishermen know that you won’t go out to the
lake, river, ocean or pond and throw the bait in and then immediately
get a bite or hit on the line. Sure it can happen, but most of the time
it doesn’t. For those that are lucky, you will catch a storm of fish
and for those not so lucky you can go out for days and not catch one,
which would be quite discouraging.

 

There are many
different types of fish out there, most pronounced would be fresh water
Vs. salt water. Still fish are fish, but concerning on the type of fish
you may have to fight it back to the boat, shore or dock in order to
call it your catch. Each fish is different with many methods of
searching and tracking the best times to fish or places to go to fish.
Some like warm waters like bass (small and large mouth) and some like
it ice cold like salmon or trout. Some can be caught with bait other
with lures. All have certain types of personalities, like how they
fight or behave given the circumstances. Some are territorial some swim
in schools, but all are pursued to be caught.

 

Some fishermen fish
for prestige or fame, others for fun, or “catch and release.” Each
fisherman can appreciate another and always ask, “Any luck?” Whether or
not they caught something they all have a tale to tell about the
biggest, baddest fish they almost caught or have caught and that they
may have put it on the wall at home or cooked it for dinner. In other
words we find that fishermen are proud of what they have caught or the
good times they had while fishing.

 

 

Looking for your partner…

 

Much fishing we find
ourselves a little later on in life looking for the right partner and
there is as many people out there as there are fish…. But I think fish
have people beat in population. The common things we learn about
fishing at a young as can be seen as a tutorial to that of looking for
your partner, catching it and taking it home with you. Hopefully you
don’t cook it or put it on the wall, but you will always remember all
the ones you caught or came close to catching.

 

I chose to use
partner instead of “the opposite sex” as to not offend anyone with a
different sexual orientation than my own. I personally go for the
opposite gender, that being women, so I will base my opinions on that
of “looking for the right girl.”

 

Looking for a girl is
much more difficult than fishing some may say, or some might say that
fishing is harder than looking for the right girl. What ever the
opinion may be, patience is the most important quality anyone can have,
especially guys. Just like fishing we need to know how to look for a
girl. Like places, and what to use to catch them. Much like a predator
tracking its prey we must study this complex situation.

 

Studying the prey
means knowing what you want to eat, or catch. It also means you got to
know what you want. For instance a wolf won’t start hunting everything
small to gigantic as it is smart enough what it can take down and what
is tasty for it to eat. IN the same way, we know what we want from a
girl and so we need to look for those characteristics.

If its beauty, then
you’ll go after that shining star; if its intelligence you’ll go after
that book worm… no matter what you like to catch, you have to look/hunt
in the right place.

 

But you need to be
equipped. You can’t go fishing without a rod, or net if you want to
catch a gang. You need line, bait/lures, tackle box and so on. Same
with looking for a girl, you want to plan what you have offer, what you
will have to bring and so on. Understanding a girl is crucial and
usually not possible from what I have experienced as well as many
others, so I wont even attempt to act like I know how to understand
them. They are like fish, sometimes they bite… sometimes they don’t.
What you need to know is just like your own style of fishing, you do it
your way. The fish or girl wants to be caught the way it wants to be
caught, you can pretend to be something you’re not and expect to catch
it. For example you cant bring in a 40lb salmon on a 6 lb. test line….
It just wont happen… it’ll snap the line and you’ll feel like an idiot
for trying something that doesn’t work for you. You’re smarter than
that… I hope. You just gotta be you and do it your way… be yourself.

 

Be realistic…. You
cant catch something that is out of your league. In order words do go
fishing with something that just wont work for you. You gotta be able
to handle what you want. Look for what’s right for you and don’t think
that if you try hard enough things will work out… they don’t… it takes
two to tangle. You cant go deep sea fishing on a fresh water lake dock
fishing budget, just like a seven year old trying to handle a sailfish
would be a good idea… it’ll pull him over board…. Make sure you don’t
bite off more than you can chew, be honest with yourself if you really
think you have a chance at catching whatever it is you’re after.

 

Fisherman are confident when they go fishing, you should be too. I just thought I shold throw that one out there….

 

But most
importantly….. HAVE FUN…. Fishing is relaxing and the times you will
talk about till your 75 sharing your tall tales with your grandkids so
make it a memorable time and enjoy yourself when your in the moment.
It’s about the love for the catch and of course some bragging rights, I
wont lie, that you like to go fishing.

 

Love the most
important thing….. don’t do something that you don’t love to do, love
to fish then fish…. If you need to take lessons, do it…. But love the
fish and enjoy the good times…..

 

Now I just need to
decide… large or small mouth bass for the next trip…. And I better make
sure I got all the gear I need in my tackle box….

I recycled this post from about 1 year ago. I've been reading a lot of "relationship" and "searching for someone" etc.... So I thought this would be a good entry for some of my new subscribers to read and perhaps share with others.