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  • Ignorance or Happiness... Is Truth Worth More or Less

    I guess I was somewhat inspired to write due to one of the
    most recent featured blogs on Xanga. I found myself thinking a lot about what
    is more important, or better yet was is better for a person. To be ignorant is
    pretty much always looked down upon because to know what is truth and then
    reject it to do what you "think" is still right in your own mind is
    flat out stupidity. But perhaps to reject the truth to find happiness within a realm
    of tranquility is more important to maintain sanity in a time of discomfort or
    uncovering a truth. Yes, it is rejecting what is in front of you; and yes, it
    is running away from the problem. I raise the question of to combat the obvious
    answer by addressing importance of life and being happy.

    *edit

    O yea.... here's the post that was the  inspiration for today's post:
    http://www.xanga.com/falderal/627511195/taking-the-blue-pill.html

    To live life in misery is hardly a life worth living, or is it? To sacrifice
    everyday only to end up dead at the end of many years of hardship and discomfort
    may be looked upon with pity or grief. Or perhaps someone who has sacrificed themselves
    their whole life to help and please others because they wanted to be nice or do
    the right thing has chosen an admirable path. To what end is it seen and why
    would we want to remember either.

    If we look upon the sorrow of the life that was nothing more than hell and high
    water all the time, we might say that it is hard to saying anything good about
    such a life and perhaps that was not really one worth living and should have
    ended sooner or even never started. If we look upon the one in which someone
    gave their all for others we can see two perspectives; one is they wanted to be
    remembered and the other was that they were a nice person who did a lot for
    others. Either way you look at it, there is a statement of remembrance within
    the second examples life. But is being remembered after you die more important
    than living a life that is fulfilling and having happiness?

    I think that it is foolish to live a life for the hope of being remembered. I
    mean when you die you wont know whether or not people remember you, you're dead
    you can hear them or see them speak well or bad of you... so what difference
    does it make? None really; perhaps those close to you it does, but they will
    die some day too and that remembrance of you, that was carried by them, will
    vanish... unless a tale or story is told of you for years; like a hero thing or
    war story. I guess that's what makes it into the history books.

    To live for happiness would be to live life to the fullest and enjoy what ever
    it is that you have an interest in doing. There are consequences for certain
    delinquent behaviors and understanding that is important, but being happy while
    alive is something you don’t need to be remembered for. You are happy, and you
    accept your life for where it is and what it is at any given time. Problem is
    it's not that easy. It is in fact easier to suffer and have a trying life. I
    guess having a life with hardships that leads to happiness is another way to
    look at it, but is it okay to sacrifice truth in order to obtain happiness?

    Without happiness we can find anger, hate, and a bunch of other negatives that
    can lead a person down a destructive path. With just a drop of happiness we can
    turn that spiral around and lead a person to a fulfilling life or at least one
    that is not miserable and unfulfilling. But would you sacrifice truth to be
    happy or would you choose sadness?

    To truth is to reject what "people" have deemed to be right or wrong;
    which holds a strong argument in most cases, but can also change as time goes
    on or which different social settings. So what is truth at one place at one
    time may not be the next. Which makes me ponder whether or not what I see as
    truth real or right? For all I know it can be wrong tomorrow and that would be
    brain scrambler. Happiness on the other hand is not about what is right or
    wrong, yet what brings a sense of worth, value or contentment into our personal
    lives. It can not be judge by those around you what about should or shouldn’t
    make you happy, you are who you are, and you are made happy by things that
    bring happiness to you.

    I will represent with some examples that may be a bit extreme, but we have to
    maintain a sense of logical explanation and one that is no changed due to value
    or severity of a situation. A situation is what it is and at that time there is
    not changing it, it is absolute as it stands at that point in time.

     

    Let’s take someone who has the choice of being beaten their
    whole life and told to go here, sleep there, eat now, do this, etc… Is it right
    for him to deny the fact that it is wrong to kill that entity that is holding
    him into slavery? And in doing so they would gain a slim amount satisfaction
    and happiness of their life.

     

    If you answered yes, I can see that you have thought this
    through.

    If you answered no, then let’s say this entity was commanding
    you to kill people and rape and pillage. Do you change your answer? If so, then
    you have not accepted that a situation cannot be changed at a given instance at
    the moment of occurrence.

     

    Is it right for someone to turn their back on what they
    believe in order to be happy and fulfilled?

     

    If you answered yes, I can see that you have thought this
    through.

    If you answered no, then you are closed minded. If what they
    believed was that killing people for fun was correct, I bet your answer would
    change immediately.

     

    My point is not to say whether or not it is right to deny
    truth but is it worth rejecting in order to maintain a stable state of mind? For
    my next question would be, if you said no, what if it drove a person to
    insanity?

  • Only about 1 month left

    Time sure does flying and the end of the year is counting down fast. Unfournately despite my best efforts to move on with life and all things are still plauging me and holding me back. I've come to wonder why we think and feel the way we do, even with knowledge and wisdom for circumsatnces, and why doesn't things to get us stuck.


    I guess I can say that I tried checking out other churches and found that I just couldnt concentrate with what I really wanted to and not to mention that there was so many thoughts going through hmy mind when I did go. I cant seem to find a peace with going back and being comfortable. I enjoy worship and rocking out, but I find things to be so surface level and short brusts of inspiration. I think I have decided that I will probably not go back to going regular to church and just go when I choose to as to not make it a routine.


    Thoughts and memories still burn in my mind and heart and it is not something that I really want to hold on to, but for some reason they stay stuck in my mind. I ried just about everything to move along with life and relaize that somethings are not meant to be. I guess paitence is all I have left so I'm waiting and trying to push on throught the fire and flames, but I see no end in sight. Longing and wishing, along with a dreamy imagination, really holds me back as I hope for many things that I know will not comee true, but right now I dont have much else but a little hope left; and that is the only thing that is getting me through these past couple of months, and that is running thin and low as well.


    I thought about a few things and I came to the conclusion that I have a really hard time dealing with people that are close to me phasing in and out of my life and it really has made things hard on me for these past years since high school. I've seen close friend turn into "Hey man, how ya been... havent seen you in years" kinda people. Not to mention becoming close to a girl and then having them leave me for whatever reasons. I guess since I dont like things leaving my "posession or closeness"  that when they do it is quite devastating...


    Today is Thanksgiving a time to remember what we are thankful for or feel blessed to have. Not so funny thing is that I find it hard to be thankful for much as I'm quite bitter about my current situation and find myself at a point of not only "not caring any more," but at a breaking point in which my thoughts, hopes and dreams are all shattering.


    Thankfully only one more month left... I look forward to the end of this year... not to see the coming one... but to end the chapter in this book...


     


    Through The Fire And The Flames

    On a cold winter morning, in the time before the light
    In flames of death's eternal reign we ride towards the fight
    When the darkness has fallen down, and the times are tough all right
    The sound of evil laughter falls around the world tonight

    Fighting hard, fighting on for the steel, through the wastelands evermore
    The scattered souls will feel the hell bodies wasted on the shores
    On the blackest plains in hell's domain, we watch them as we go
    In fire and pain, and once again we know

    So now we fly ever free
    We're free before the thunderstorm
    On towards the wilderness our quest carries on
    Far beyond the sundown, far beyond the moonlight
    Deep inside our hearts and all our souls

    [Chorus:]
    So far away we wait for the day
    For the light source so wasted and gone
    We feel the pain of a lifetime lost in a thousand days
    Through the fire and the flames we carry on

    As the red day is dawning
    And the lightning cracks the sky
    They'll raise their hands to the heavens above
    With resentment in their eyes
    Running back from the mid-morning light
    There's a burning in my heart
    We're banished from a time in a fallen land
    To a life beyond the stars

    In your darkest dreams see to believe
    Our destiny is time
    And endlessly we'll all be free tonight

    And on the wings of a dream, so far beyond reality
    All alone in desperation, now the time has gone
    Lost inside you'll never find, lost within my own mind
    Day after day this misery must go on

    [Chorus]

    Now here we stand with their blood on our hands
    We fought so hard now can we understand
    I'll break the seal of this curse if I possibly can
    For freedom of every man

    [Chorus]


    Dragonforce... Rock On!!!!!!

  • Fun with Surveys

    Personality Profile

    What follows is the results of your survey responses. The results here are grouped into five categories: extraversion,
    agreeableness, conscientiousness, emotional stability, and openness. These categories represent the way that
    most people talk about personality and so they may reflect cultural or social biases.

    While many or all of these categories may look like words you typically use (even ones that often are accompanied with
    a value judgment) it is important to understand that these five factors are really labels used by psychologists
    to describe differences between people.

    This is not a psycho-analysis; the results presented here were
    created directly from your responses to the items. For that
    reason, it is unlikely that there should be a mis-match between our
    descriptions and how you or others view themselves. However,
    there is always room for error, and we would like to see your feedback
    on our inventory and descriptions. Feedback can be left here.

    The descriptions used here are borrowed from John Johnson, who hosts a page of descriptions .
    If you would like to learn more about the model of personality
    presented here, you can find an overview and a short biblography
    on the personality project website. We also discuss how to estimate the realibility of these results and show the distributions of scores from the first 3,000 people who have taken the survey.


    Extraversion Low High
    Agreeableness Low High
    Conscientiousness Low High
    Emotional Stability Low High
    Openness Low High
    Percentile 0 ---------- 25 ---------- 50 ---------- 75 ---------- 100


    Extraversion Report

    Extraversion
    is marked by pronounced engagement with the external world. Extraverts
    enjoy being with people, are full of energy, and often experience
    positive emotions. They tend to be enthusiastic, action-oriented,
    individuals who are likely to say "Yes!" or "Let's go!" to
    opportunities for excitement. In groups they like to talk, assert
    themselves, and draw attention to themselves.

    Introverts lack the exuberance, energy, and activity levels of
    extraverts. They tend to be quiet, low-key, deliberate, and disengaged
    from the social world. Their lack of social involvement should not be
    interpreted as shyness or depression; the introvert simply needs less
    stimulation than an extravert and prefers to be alone. The independence
    and reserve of the introvert is sometimes mistaken as unfriendliness or
    arrogance. In reality, an introvert who scores high on the
    agreeableness dimension will not seek others out but will be quite
    pleasant when approached.

    Score at a Glance
    Total Score 98
    Avg Response 5.3

    Your average score on extraversion was 5.3, which is considered high.
    It is in approximately the 98th percentile for males over the age of 21.

    Your
    score on Extraversion is high, indicating you are sociable, outgoing,
    energetic, and lively. You prefer to be around people much of the time.


    Agreeableness Report

    Agreeableness
    reflects individual differences in concern with cooperation and social
    harmony. Agreeable individuals value getting along with others. They
    are therefore considerate, friendly, generous, helpful, and willing to
    compromise their interests with others'. Agreeable people also have an
    optimistic view of human nature. They believe people are basically
    honest, decent, and trustworthy.

    Disagreeable individuals place self-interest above getting along
    with others. They are generally unconcerned with others' well-being,
    and therefore are unlikely to extend themselves for other people.
    Sometimes their skepticism about others' motives causes them to be
    suspicious, unfriendly, and uncooperative.

    Agreeableness is obviously advantageous for attaining and
    maintaining popularity. Agreeable people are better liked than
    disagreeable people. On the other hand, agreeableness is not useful in
    situations that require tough or absolute objective decisions.
    Disagreeable people can make excellent scientists, critics, or soldiers.

    Score at a Glance
    Total Score 90
    Avg Response 4.6

    Your average score on agreeableness was 4.6, which is considered high.
    It is in approximately the 90th percentile for males over the age of 21.

    Your
    high level of Agreeableness indicates a strong interest in others'
    needs and well-being. You are pleasant, sympathetic, and cooperative.


    Conscientiousness Report

    Conscientiousness
    concerns the way in which we control, regulate, and direct our
    impulses. Impulses are not inherently bad; occasionally time
    constraints require a snap decision, and acting on our first impulse
    can be an effective response. Also, in times of play rather than work,
    acting spontaneously and impulsively can be fun. Impulsive individuals
    can be seen by others as colorful, fun-to-be-with, and zany.

    Nonetheless, acting on impulse can lead to trouble in a number of
    ways. Some impulses are antisocial. Uncontrolled antisocial acts not
    only harm other members of society, but also can result in retribution
    toward the perpetrator of such impulsive acts. Another problem with
    impulsive acts is that they often produce immediate rewards but
    undesirable, long-term consequences. Examples include excessive
    socializing that leads to being fired from one's job, hurling an insult
    that causes the breakup of an important relationship, or using
    pleasure-inducing drugs that eventually destroy one's health.

    Impulsive behavior, even when not seriously destructive, diminishes
    a person's effectiveness in significant ways. Acting impulsively
    disallows contemplating alternative courses of action, some of which
    would have been wiser than the impulsive choice. Impulsivity also
    sidetracks people during projects that require organized sequences of
    steps or stages. Accomplishments of an impulsive person are therefore
    small, scattered, and inconsistent.

    A hallmark of intelligence, what potentially separates human beings
    from earlier life forms, is the ability to think about future
    consequences before acting on an impulse. Intelligent activity involves
    contemplation of long-range goals, organizing and planning routes to
    these goals, and persisting toward one's goals in the face of
    short-lived impulses to the contrary. The idea that intelligence
    involves impulse control is nicely captured by the term prudence, an
    alternative label for the Conscientiousness domain. Prudent means both
    wise and cautious. Persons who score high on the Conscientiousness
    scale are, in fact, perceived by others as intelligent.

    The benefits of high conscientiousness are obvious. Conscientious
    individuals avoid trouble and achieve high levels of success through
    purposeful planning and persistence. They are also positively regarded
    by others as intelligent and reliable. On the negative side, they can
    be compulsive perfectionists and workaholics. Furthermore, extremely
    conscientious individuals might be regarded as stuffy and boring.
    Unconscientious people may be criticized for their unreliability, lack
    of ambition, and failure to stay within the lines, but they will
    experience many short-lived pleasures and they will never be called
    stuffy.

    Score at a Glance
    Total Score 96
    Avg Response 5.1

    Your average score on conscientiousness was 5.1, which is considered high.
    It is in approximately the 96th percentile for males over the age of 21.

    Your
    score on Conscientiousness is high. This means you set clear goals and
    pursue them with determination. People regard you as reliable and
    hard-working.


    Emotional Stability Report

    Emotional
    stability is the opposite of emotional reactivity, which is the
    tendency to experience negative feelings. Those who score low on
    emotional stability may experience primarily one specific negative
    feeling such as anxiety, anger, or depression, but are likely to
    experience several of these emotions. People low in emotional stability
    are emotionally reactive. They respond emotionally to events that would
    not affect most people, and their reactions tend to be more intense
    than normal. They are more likely to interpret ordinary situations as
    threatening, and minor frustrations as hopelessly difficult. Their
    negative emotional reactions tend to persist for unusually long periods
    of time, which means they are often in a bad mood. These problems in
    emotional regulation can diminish a ones ability to think clearly, make
    decisions, and cope effectively with stress.

    At the other end of the scale, individuals who score high in
    emotional stability are less easily upset and are less emotionally
    reactive. They tend to be calm, emotionally stable, and free from
    persistent negative feelings. Freedom from negative feelings does not
    mean that high scorers experience a lot of positive feelings; frequency
    of positive emotions is a component of the Extraversion domain.

    Score at a Glance
    Total Score 16
    Avg Response 3.15

    Your average score on emotional stability was 3.15, which is considered low.
    It is in approximately the 16th percentile for males over the age of 21.

    Your
    score on Emotional Stability is low indicating that you are easily
    upset, even by what most people consider the normal demands of living.
    People consider you to be sensitive and emotional.


    Openness Report

    Openness
    to Experience describes a dimension of cognitive style that
    distinguishes imaginative, creative people from down-to-earth,
    conventional people. Open people are intellectually curious,
    appreciative of art, and sensitive to beauty. They tend to be, compared
    to closed people, more aware of their feelings. They tend to think and
    act in individualistic and nonconforming ways. Intellectuals typically
    score high on Openness to Experience; consequently, this factor has
    also been called Culture or Intellect. Nonetheless, Intellect is
    probably best regarded as one aspect of openness to experience. Scores
    on Openness to Experience are only modestly related to years of
    education and scores on standard intelligent tests.

    Another characteristic of the open cognitive style is a facility for
    thinking in symbols and abstractions far removed from concrete
    experience. Depending on the individual's specific intellectual
    abilities, this symbolic cognition may take the form of mathematical,
    logical, or geometric thinking, artistic and metaphorical use of
    language, music composition or performance, or one of the many visual
    or performing arts. People with low scores on openness to experience
    tend to have narrow, common interests. They prefer the plain,
    straightforward, and obvious over the complex, ambiguous, and subtle.
    They may regard the arts and sciences with suspicion, regarding these
    endeavors as abstruse or of no practical use. Closed people prefer
    familiarity over novelty; they are conservative and resistant to change.

    Openness is often presented as healthier or more mature by
    psychologists, who are often themselves open to experience. However,
    open and closed styles of thinking are useful in different
    environments. The intellectual style of the open person may serve a
    professor well, but research has shown that closed thinking is related
    to superior job performance in police work, sales, and a number of
    service occupations.

    Score at a Glance
    Total Score 92
    Avg Response 5.1

    Your average score on openness was 5.1, which is considered high.
    It is in approximately the 92nd percentile for males over the age of 21.

    Your
    score on Openness to Experience is high, indicating you enjoy novelty,
    variety, and change. You are curious, imaginative, and creative.


    We hope that you enjoyed taking this survey. For more information about personality theory or research, be sure to visit the personality-project. You are welcome to leave feedback about this survey which we will use to improve the site.

  • The quote of the day

    While reading the board on an online..... I came across
    this:

    CYBORG-CUBE 6
    {thumb}witeenigma

    08-11-2007
    23:57:42
    a marriage
    proposal is a declaration of war. do not mistake
    that.

    This is taken completely out of context FYI..... Just sounds funny by itself.

    I also found this amuzing from a friends AIM profile:

    GOD POPULATED the earth with vegetables of all kinds, so that Man would live a
    long and healthy life. And Satan created the 99-cent double cheeseburger. And
    Satan said to Man, "Want fries with that?" And Man said, "Supersize them!" And
    Man gained pounds. And God created healthful yogurt. And Satan froze the yogurt
    and brought forth chocolate, nuts and brightly colored candy to put on top. And
    Man gained more pounds. And God brought forth running shoes, and Man resolved
    to lose those extra pounds. And Satan brought forth cable TV, remote control and
    potato chips. And Man clutched his remote and ate his chips. Satan saw this and
    said, "It is good." And Man went into cardiac arrest. And God sighed and created
    quadruple bypass surgery. And Satan created HMOs...

    (Reader's Digest,
    March 2003)

  • No End In Sight

    *edit Location: Indian Rock*

    Climbing is a lot of fun and its dangerous.... Much like life.

    Here you can see me on the rock and I can look back or down and see where I started. But when I look up I can only see so far ahead of me. I can plan where to go and what to grasp onto for a hold, but it's never forsure where the end is.... it's just kinda up there... way high up there.

    Best thing to do is not to look back, just remember what your goal is. Reach the top.

    Plan, think, move, breath, relax..... and just ascend. It's a crazy journey, it's your challenge.

    Dont give up, keep moving.

    DONT BE WEAK!

    JUST FUCKING ASCEND THAT SHIT!

  • Slightly Eaten Nachos

                Me and GQ
    went to the Warriors game on Sunday for some preseason action. It was kool
    since he had season tickets and all. Its always good to have company when you
    go to the game so you can joke and talk about how crappy or good the game is. And
    its also time to just chill and relax and just observe the scenery.

     

                I remember
    we got to our sits about 30 mins before game time and looked around and noticed,
    not too many people yet. Infact the arena was maybe 10% full if that. We had
    some seats that were up kinda high and all, but there were a few people there
    before us. We had noticed that there was a younger Japanese lady, probably late
    20’s earlier 30’s about 6 seats to the left of us with some nachos resting on
    her lap and her outfit seemed to show that she was on a date. Not dressed like
    a slut or anything, but more out going. Black skirt and and black calf-high
    boots, with a jean jacket. Nice hair and had a good facial features. Clearly a
    nice intelligent looking girl, sitting alone; she hadn’t even touched her
    nachos.

     

                But hey
    with 30 mins to wait, we decided to hit up the food stand and get some grub. I
    happened to bump into an old classmate of mine from Elementary School. Chavon
    Johnson happened to be working and still searching for a better job as a recent
    grad from Cal State Hayward. It funny how we bump into old faces…. Hot Dog
    still dug $5.50 out of my pocket… after eating it later I rated it at about $3-4
    tops.

     

                We got back
    to our seats about 10-15 mins and noticed that girl was all by herself still
    and the game was about to start in 10 mins. We figured she must be meeting a
    friend and the friend was running late.

     

                Tip off and
    the game is underway. Not too exciting though, but GSW were holding there own
    for that first quarter. Still no company for the girl and the nachos still
    untouched.

     

                I remember
    her getting a phone call, and talked for a brief period before hanging up. Call
    me a stalker, but I like to study human behavior and especially interesting situations
    or unusual ones. I think this one happened to fit that file. A decent looking
    girl all by herself at a basketball game, with untouched nachos.

     

                Toward the
    end of the first half, I saw maybe 2-3 nachos consumed and yet it still looked undisturbed
    despite the dipping into the cheese. No facial expression of frustration or
    irritation, but instead neutral and calm… but I think I perceived a bit of deep
    thinking, and concentration, but it wasn’t on the game as her focus was not
    full on the court.

     

                At the beginning
    of the second half, about 5 mins in, me and GQ decided to find a better viewing
    section, if ya know what I mean. Lots of openings all over. So we move down to
    center court about 15 rows back…. Great seats…. And what do you know, we can
    still see that girl all by herself.

     

                I reason I
    am writing about her is that I feel for people in situations. Whether I know
    them or not, I can be embarrassed, sad, or ackward just cause they are. Funny,
    but I guess I get that sensitivity sometimes.

     

                She sat through
    the whole game, well at least up to 3 mins before it was over when GQ and I
    decided to leave since GSW were down by 20 and all.

     

                But I
    thought to myself later that perhaps she liked to go to places by herself and
    enjoy slowing eating nachos to get away from it all…. But I doubt it…

     

                We go
    through many experiences and I think that we can learn from them too as well
    from others we observe. I’m quite sure why this one stuck in my mind, it just
    did… so I wrote… Slightly eaten nachos.

  • Try it out






    You Are 40% Evil

    A bit of evil lurks in your heart, but you hide it well.
    In some ways, you are the most dangerous kind of evil.

     



     

    or

  • Small mouth bass or large mouth bass?

    I find it interesting that we can parallel many things in life. Examples are heard all so often and I was thinking about this a couple of weeks ago.


     


    “Partners and Fishing”


     


    Despite the fact that fishing and looking for partner are 2 different things, the characteristics, motions, actions, and behaviors have some common, if not exactly the same, events.


     


    Let’s begin with fishing:


     


    Before you can go fishing you must learn how to fish. Usually you have your dad or uncle teach you when you’re just a wee tot. From there you will learn the basics, such as types of fish, bait, methods, practices, secret fishing holes, etc… With the proper skills in head knowledge you can begin to fish, most of them time you’re just giving a hook with a worm on it to start, then you would advance to lures, jigs and so on. With enough practice you may pick up fly fishing and have a whole new way of fishing. Nonetheless, in the end you will develop your own style and decide what kind of fish you like to fish for.


     


    Along the way of learning how to fish the first lesson you will learn is that fishing takes patience. All good fishermen know that you won’t go out to the lake, river, ocean or pond and throw the bait in and then immediately get a bite or hit on the line. Sure it can happen, but most of the time it doesn’t. For those that are lucky, you will catch a storm of fish and for those not so lucky you can go out for days and not catch one, which would be quite discouraging.


     


    There are many different types of fish out there, most pronounced would be fresh water Vs. salt water. Still fish are fish, but concerning on the type of fish you may have to fight it back to the boat, shore or dock in order to call it your catch. Each fish is different with many methods of searching and tracking the best times to fish or places to go to fish. Some like warm waters like bass (small and large mouth) and some like it ice cold like salmon or trout. Some can be caught with bait other with lures. All have certain types of personalities, like how they fight or behave given the circumstances. Some are territorial some swim in schools, but all are pursued to be caught.


     


    Some fishermen fish for prestige or fame, others for fun, or “catch and release.” Each fisherman can appreciate another and always ask, “Any luck?” Whether or not they caught something they all have a tale to tell about the biggest, baddest fish they almost caught or have caught and that they may have put it on the wall at home or cooked it for dinner. In other words we find that fishermen are proud of what they have caught or the good times they had while fishing.


     


     


    Looking for your partner…


     


    Much fishing we find ourselves a little later on in life looking for the right partner and there is as many people out there as there are fish…. But I think fish have people beat in population. The common things we learn about fishing at a young as can be seen as a tutorial to that of looking for your partner, catching it and taking it home with you. Hopefully you don’t cook it or put it on the wall, but you will always remember all the ones you caught or came close to catching.


     


    I chose to use partner instead of “the opposite sex” as to not offend anyone with a different sexual orientation than my own. I personally go for the opposite gender, that being women, so I will base my opinions on that of “looking for the right girl.”


     


    Looking for a girl is much more difficult than fishing some may say, or some might say that fishing is harder than looking for the right girl. What ever the opinion may be, patience is the most important quality anyone can have, especially guys. Just like fishing we need to know how to look for a girl. Like places, and what to use to catch them. Much like a predator tracking its prey we must study this complex situation.


     


    Studying the prey means knowing what you want to eat, or catch. It also means you got to know what you want. For instance a wolf won’t start hunting everything small to gigantic as it is smart enough what it can take down and what is tasty for it to eat. IN the same way, we know what we want from a girl and so we need to look for those characteristics.


    If its beauty, then you’ll go after that shining star; if its intelligence you’ll go after that book worm… no matter what you like to catch, you have to look/hunt in the right place.


     


    But you need to be equipped. You can’t go fishing without a rod, or net if you want to catch a gang. You need line, bait/lures, tackle box and so on. Same with looking for a girl, you want to plan what you have offer, what you will have to bring and so on. Understanding a girl is crucial and usually not possible from what I have experienced as well as many others, so I wont even attempt to act like I know how to understand them. They are like fish, sometimes they bite… sometimes they don’t. What you need to know is just like your own style of fishing, you do it your way. The fish or girl wants to be caught the way it wants to be caught, you can pretend to be something you’re not and expect to catch it. For example you cant bring in a 40lb salmon on a 6 lb. test line…. It just wont happen… it’ll snap the line and you’ll feel like an idiot for trying something that doesn’t work for you. You’re smarter than that… I hope. You just gotta be you and do it your way… be yourself.


     


    Be realistic…. You cant catch something that is out of your league. In order words do go fishing with something that just wont work for you. You gotta be able to handle what you want. Look for what’s right for you and don’t think that if you try hard enough things will work out… they don’t… it takes two to tangle. You cant go deep sea fishing on a fresh water lake dock fishing budget, just like a seven year old trying to handle a sailfish would be a good idea… it’ll pull him over board…. Make sure you don’t bite off more than you can chew, be honest with yourself if you really think you have a chance at catching whatever it is you’re after.


     


    Fisherman are confident when they go fishing, you should be too. I just thought I shold throw that one out there….


     


    But most importantly….. HAVE FUN…. Fishing is relaxing and the times you will talk about till your 75 sharing your tall tales with your grandkids so make it a memorable time and enjoy yourself when your in the moment. It’s about the love for the catch and of course some bragging rights, I wont lie, that you like to go fishing.


     


    Love the most important thing….. don’t do something that you don’t love to do, love to fish then fish…. If you need to take lessons, do it…. But love the fish and enjoy the good times…..


     


    Now I just need to decide… large or small mouth bass for the next trip…. And I better make sure I got all the gear I need in my tackle box….